Why Kids Don't Need Quality Time Like You Think They Do


What does quality time really mean? And what do the studies show about how to get that time and how much our kids really need. The answers may surprise you! Listen to this episode to learn about research done that may change the way you look at time with your kids.

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Busy Families

Parents these days are busy!

With work, school functions, sports, activities and more, it is hard to find a balance.

Parents want to spend quality time with their children, but find it hard to do.

What is Quality Time?

Quality time is not necessarily the big stuff, like vacations and routines.

This 2007 study says "everyday activities like household chores or running errands may afford families quality moments, unplanned, instructed instances of social interaction" that build relationships.

Instead, quality relationships are really built around the small moments, as illustrated so beautifully in this poem by Seamus Heaney.

When all the others were away at Mass I was all hers as we peeled potatoes. They broke the silence, let fall one by one Like solder weeping off the soldering iron: Cold comforts set between us, things to share Gleaming in a bucket of clean water. And again let fall. Little pleasant splashes From each other’s work would bring us to our senses.

So while the parish priest at her bedside Went hammer and tongs at the prayers for the dying And some were responding and some crying I remembered her head bent towards my head, Her breath in mine, our fluent dipping knives – Never closer the whole rest of our lives.

A study be Melissa Milkie at the University of Toronto says that the amount of time skids spend with parents from age 3-11 had no measurable impact on their emotional well being, behavior or academic success.